The reason married people get into so much trouble is because they believe in a myth called THE RIGHT PERSON MYTH - "If I marry the right person, everything will be all right. When I meet the right person, everything will be all right." Highlighting the danger in that, the preacher revealed that when two people finally find Mr. and Mrs. Right, they would marry only to realize that they didn't know much about relationships and all they had was chemistry. They just thought love would keep us alive.
A young woman who grew up in a religious home, putting on the “back burner” her beliefs, was “living the life, having fun.” One day, she met who she thought to be “Mr. Right.” After getting to know him, she saw he was the total package – the looks, the job, and the personality. On talking further, it became very apparent that he was a Christian, who was committed to living out his faith in every aspect of his life. Going home that night, she told her mother all about “Mr. Right,” gushing over all his qualities. But her mother turned to her after and said, “Sweetheart, the problem is a guy like that is not looking for a girl like you,” to which she literally fell to the floor in a puddle of tears. It was a defining moment for her as a single person. Her priorities changed, her life changed, and she is going in a different direction now.
“Are you who the person you are looking for is looking for?,”is the answer key to any successful relationship.
Singles have to stop believing in the fairy tale that somehow when meeting the right person, all the other things would fall magically into place. Do not just base your relationships on chemistry and passion alone, which takes no work and could be felt with thousands of other people at any given time. Approach relationships more wisely. Stanley explained why adults should graduate from the “happily ever after ending” of most childhood fairy tales where you can just get [the prince and the princess] together, the rest takes care of itself.” And it’s time for you to put the ways of childhood behind and [realize] this isn't about magically finding the right person – that’s fantasy ... it’s not reality.”
"The correct approach", he emphasized, "the approach that will serve you so well, is to decide I'm not just hunting, I'm not just seeking. I am intentionally becoming the person who the person I'm looking for is ultimately looking for.
Looking to the Scriptures, there is very little advice offered on finding the right person. But if you open the Scriptures and ask the question, ‘God, how do I become the right person?’ Suddenly, the pages of Scripture light up. The reason that shouldn't come as a surprise is because God created relationship and God created you for relationship. You were designed for this. I want you to know it’s possible. I don’t want you to give up on that dream. But it doesn't happen accidentally. You are responsible for stepping up and saying, 'God, I want you to transform my character.'
"It’s becoming that prepares you for great relations."
Comment below and tell us your tale: Was there someone who made you feel 'not enough'? Share with us your experience of intentional becoming.
4 comments:
Thank you for sharing this post Jisha!Just got a wonderful new message about marriage. And appreciate your efforts for writing this blog!:)Keep rocking for Jesus! :)
@Renu Anis: I am glad you liked the post. Feel free to browse through the other articles as well. And make sure you share it with your friends. :)
Hi Jisha, Thanks for sharing the above interesting concept. It encourages the single people but also the married couples out there to work on ourselves first and then expect our partners to change and adjust in order to build, develop and maintain a successful marriage:)
@Jijy Jacob: I am happy that you were able to relate to the message. And thanks for taking a moment to share your thought. It encourages me to keep writing.
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